How to cope

[Bosslady]

Son in law is BPD

Last 9 weeks attempted suicide 3 times and been hospitalised each time

Constantly says he is on his medication

His wife has left him after 8 years of living on eggshells with him

He continually rings and messages upto 40 times a day about

The whole situation. I'm taking medicine I'm not contacting wife. I'm doing everything I should be doing. I can't sleep I'm having a panic attack. I don't like talking to 'lifeline' or such help lines. I want to talk to someone I know. And this is repeated every hour almost verbatim.

He says it's doing him in obviously the whole time the situation is about him and not what he is putting his wife son in laws work people through.

It's got so bad no one wants to talk to him answer his calls or see him

How do we get to tell him to back off. That he is now sending me around the twist. I'm now refusing to go to work and I'm the employer because I don't wish to speak others about it

[Kwamina]

Hi Bosslady

Thanks for posting this introduction. I want to give you a warm welcome to our online community

The situation you describe with your son-in-law sounds very stressful indeed. Dealing with someone who attempts suicide isn't easy at all. Receiving so many calls from him only adds to the stress.

How is your son-in-law doing now? Is he still in hospital or has he already been released? Is he receiving any kind of treatment or medication for his issues?

You say it has gotten so bad that nobody wants to talk to or see him. And also that he himself says that he doesn't want to contact his wife. How is your daughter coping with all of this?

[HappyChappy]

Bosslady Sounds like you have a lot to deal with here. Is your son in law, plugged into people who can help him right now ? I understand how this sort of harassment in the work place is very difficult.

My BPD use to call me at work, as a last resort and to embarrass me. However she doesn't have a history of suicide. So what I did was get a phone system that block certain numbers, such that the phone doesn't even ring and staff don't have a situation. If a caller uses a withheld number - I pick those calls up, so staff don't get involved. It also helps with unsolisted sellers – so not an odd thing to do. But of course that doesn’t resolve your son in law’s need for support. Best of luck.