I'm just now realizing how bossy I am. I hadn't really seen it that way before--I just categorized it as "being efficient."
Awesome to notice how the "efficient" way of doing things makes your life a lot more of a mess and changing your strategy accordingly!
Still a hard thing to change even when you notice... .at least for me!
... .but I still think my way is best.
Of course. If you thought another way was better, you would start doing that.
Yes, change is indeed difficult, especially for an OCDish person like me. Something that recently has occurred to me is that I let animals be who they are, why do I need to micromanage my husband? In the months since I've discovered this group and began my own therapy, I've let go of much of the external manifestations of "managing" him, but some of the little things such as his lack of followthrough for putting things away after he uses them, still irks me. But I have been successful at keeping my mouth shut about that.
Now I'm going to be more mindful of self-disclosure. In the future, if I can't save it for therapy, I'll just tell that stuff to the cats, the goats, the sheep or the horses. So far, I've found that the horses have been some of the best listeners.
