Police Harassment Charge

[swimjim]

Well, when our replacement gets split black, they are either in the process of lining a new replacement up or attempt to recycle us. The length of the relationship with the replacement depends on whether the replacement triggers her engulfment fears by flooding her with real intimacy. If they have no intimacy, they can last a long time. If he is a doormat, he will be used as a punching bag and he will take the abuse. From what I understand, just because the relationship is lasting a long time does not mean they are happy. I am having a hard time believing that. My current replacement has been with her longer than I thought and I fear she might be married. She never took any time to heal between relationships. We need to pray that they don't try to recycle us. We need to pray that they stay focused on someone else. It is tempting to touch that hot stove just for makeup sex but it will only be hazardous to our health.

[Restored2]

Hey swimjim.  I have previous indications and fully believe that she is steering clear of men and does not have a replacement for me.  Prayer is key in all of this stuff!  Believe it or not despite what she has done to me, I am still open for her to come back for a redo relationship with me.  First off, I would need to have a written message from her via text or email that would protect me from false allegations of harassment or otherwise.  Something that would show that she is wanting to reconnect and be with me of her own free will.  Secondly, we would be heading straight to couples therapy/counselling together.  These would be my stringent terms and nothing less.  Apparently, it is not unusual for them to reconnect to get back together even after they have pressed charges against someone.  I know this all sounds insane... .

[swimjim]

I used to think like you. Part of me still does. We have an emotional side to our brain and an intellectual side to our brain. My emotional side wants her back and I would want everything in writing and therapy also. HOWEVER, my individual therapy has taught me to focus on the intellectual side of the brain. Trust me when I state this. You would be making the biggest mistake in your life if you gave her another chance. She may get on her hands and knees and beg  for you to forgive her. If she splits you white again, it will be short lived. Each recycle has a shorter life expectancy than the one before. When she involves law enforcement and the courts, she is a dangerous person. Her mask may be persuasive, but you must trust your intellectual side and stay away. If you went back, she could claim rape or abuse of her or her child.

A drug addict has an emotional side and an intellectual side. The emotional side craves the dopamine / serotonin (chemical release)  rush from the brain. A drug addict's intellectual side focuses on a 12 step program.

She will need years of therapy and that is not a guarantee that she will get better. PLEASE DON'T GO BACK. 

[EaglesJuju]

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