He took an OD is in hospital, things had been ok ...

[sweetheart]

Hello all,

I went away to my mums for a night on Friday with our son and on return home my dBPDh had been arrested and charged with carrying an offensive weapon. He was carrying a Swiss Army knife. This is the second time in 18 months. He was bailed to home and has to appear in court in March, it carries an automatic custodial sentence. My h will serve this in a secure psychiatric facility. I suspect with all that has been going on for him recently this maybe for an indefinite period. He is aware that this will most likely be the case. He said to me that he has ruined all of our lives now. ( I should have realised what he was saying but I didn't take it that seriously when he said it  )

Today I could see he was struggling, but he was ok with me, just looked very down. I suggested he phone his crisis team as he was struggling which he did, next thing I knew police and ambulance arrive as he had taken an impulsive overdose of his antipsychotic meds. He's in hospital pending psych assessment when he is physically ok.

It all happened so quickly without warning my head is still reeling. Thank god our s6 was in bed when everyone arrived.

He hasn't taken an overdose since last April and there was no warning with this one at all. 

I hate this illness. I feel very sad this evening for me, our son and my husband.

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[Cat Familiar]

Sweetheart, I'm so sorry. You've had to cope with so much for so long.    The only positive thing is that he will definitely get treatment now. I remember you were hoping he'd get a hospital bed back during the holidays, but he was on  a waiting list. It's just too bad it had to happen this way.   

[vortex of confusion]

       


Wanted to offer you some hugs as I have no words.

[flowerpath]

Sweetheart, I am so sorry that this has happened to all of you. 

Things in this world have changed so much.  All those years ago when I was in school, half the boys must have carried a pocket knife – at school – and it wasn’t against the law.   My dad always carried one.  Back then, it was considered to be a tool, not a weapon. 

I hate this illness too.  This was so unexpected, and it’s so much for you to sort through emotionally.  The prospect of his being in indefinite custodial care must be difficult, but now you have the help of someone else keeping an eye on him.  While he is in the 24-hour care of professionals, while you are getting a clearer picture of what will become of this, I hope that there will be peace for you and your son there at home.

[EaglesJuju]

I am sorry that this happened Sweetheart.         How are you holding up? 

[Notwendy]

Sorry to hear this sweetheart. You are a kind soul. Know that he is now in professional hands and will get the care he needs.