Breakup was Thursday night. I offered to work on the relationship, she discarded me cruelly / coldly. One way she did this was to have all my stuff packed / by the door when I arrived, even though we were there to talk things out. Have been moving on, nc from me or her. Quiet. At bottom of one of bags she packed were cookies from the cake place she works at. She used to bring me home sweets every night as I liked them after dinner. what the heck? She coldly discarded me, why give me cookies? I'm back to not feeling well so any thoughts welcome.
My ex had several affairs, refused couples counseling, decided to move out - but wanted to make dinner for me every night, and breakfast on the weekends,
after she found a place and was packing up to leave. I think that was one of the most difficult things for me to reconcile - the cruelty mixed with (what would have been from anyone else) seeming acts of kindness and caring.