Fearing a repercussion from uBPD SIL

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I've posted before about my SIL who is uBPD. Things were pretty crazy for a few months but they have seemed to cash calm down quite a bit. I've also posted about her 17yo D, who thinks there is something wrong with herself, and her M won't let her see a therapist like she wants. SIL even had the nerve to yell at her when she mentioned it again, telling her that she doesn't need to see a therapist and calling her retarded and stupid for wanting to. So I did research to find a site that could maybe help her, and I did but I've been too scared to tell her about it because I don't want my SIL to get angry. But I finally decided to suck it up and give her the website. I had to, especially after hearing what her mother said when she asked again. So now I guess I have to wait and see if she tells her M, or keeps it to herself. If she tells I'm sure I'll be getting some unwanted feedback from my SIL. Did I do the right thing? Doesn't she deserve to figure out that it's not her who has the issue? Maybe she might have a better a chance at not being damaged. Idk, I hope I made the right choice.

[Smallville]

I've posted before about my SIL who is uBPD. Things were pretty crazy for a few months but they have seemed to cash calm down quite a bit. I've also posted about her 17yo D, who thinks there is something wrong with herself, and her M won't let her see a therapist like she wants. SIL even had the nerve to yell at her when she mentioned it again, telling her that she doesn't need to see a therapist and calling her retarded and stupid for wanting to. So I did research to find a site that could maybe help her, and I did but I've been too scared to tell her about it because I don't want my SIL to get angry. But I finally decided to suck it up and give her the website. I had to, especially after hearing what her mother said when she asked again. So now I guess I have to wait and see if she tells her M, or keeps it to herself. If she tells I'm sure I'll be getting some unwanted feedback from my SIL. Did I do the right thing? Doesn't she deserve to figure out that it's not her who has the issue? Maybe she might have a better a chance at not being damaged. Idk, I hope I made the right choice.

[foggydew]

Of course you did the right thing. She's 17 and has to grow up, cope, and free herself from her mother. She needs to know you are on her side. My aunt did something similar for me when I was just a bit older, and it helped me enormously to know someone understood and supported me. And she can start to do her own research.