hello

[Depression = 72% of members]

  my 86 year old mother has just been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I suspected it, but it's very different having an actual diagnosis. its better now that I have hope about the very highly stigmatized diagnosis of BPD. at times my life has been a living hell because of her disorder. I didn't understand why she was doing what she was doing, and I still don't understand.I know when I was wondering if she might have it I was completely without hope that it might be treatable. now I know that that's not true. I'm looking forward to exploring the website and sharing with all of you.

[Ann7]

  my 86 year old mother has just been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I suspected it, but it's very different having an actual diagnosis. its better now that I have hope about the very highly stigmatized diagnosis of BPD. at times my life has been a living hell because of her disorder. I didn't understand why she was doing what she was doing, and I still don't understand.I know when I was wondering if she might have it I was completely without hope that it might be treatable. now I know that that's not true. I'm looking forward to exploring the website and sharing with all of you.

[Forever to Roam]

Hi Ann7, Welcome! 

Feel free to share more of your story. You are not alone here - there are many people here who know what's it's like to be in a living hell because of a person with BPD.

Wishing you well and sending you hugs.

[Kwamina]

Hi Ann7

I'd like to join Forever to Roam in welcoming you to our online family

Your story is very interesting. You're mother is already 86 years old and has just recently been diagnosed with BPD. What led up to this diagnosis? Has she perhaps already received other diagnoses in the past?

BPD is quite a challenging disorder and having a mother with BPD can be very difficult for a child. Could you tell us a bit more about your experiences with your mother? You say you already suspected BPD, what behaviors of your mother caused these suspicions?

I know when I was wondering if she might have it I was completely without hope that it might be treatable. now I know that that's not true. I'm looking forward to exploring the website and sharing with all of you.

There are people with BPD who through hard work have managed to better deal with their difficult thoughts and emotions and by doing so have improved their behavior. For this to happen it's often essential that they fully acknowledge that they have certain issues and commit to working on them. How did your mother respond to getting this BPD diagnosis? Is she getting targeted treatment for her BPD?

[littlebirdcline]

I second Kwamina's interest in your story.  One of the reasons my brother refuses to confront my mother, even though he acknowledges her BPD, is that she is too old (she will be 60 later this year), and it would be too traumatic at her age to have to face the truth.  How did your mother react to this diagnosis.  Hate to be nosy, but very curious!