Help as I can not stand the Rollercoster but still drawn to it ?

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After a 6 month relationship where every 5 weeks he gets upset over nothing and then withdraws and goes silent.  This time he will not even have the decency to talk to me about it.  He seems to decide when and if and what will change with the relationship.  I am now very stressed out and everything was going great and so confused as to why he states via text wants to only be a friend but has not talked to me or stated really whats on his mind. 

Things go great, he gets upset and goes silent, and cancels things that matter to me (like he wants to hurt me?).  I am sure I am getting blamed for this though.  Other than a physical relationship this really was not a great one but I keep hoping as I see the potential.  Why am I still drawn to him and why am I keeping or trying for contact as he now seems indifferent?  Maybe because I want closure and this seems like he is disrespecting me?   Maybe I really am hoping for a friendship though he was never a great friend.

IDK?

[logical]

After a 6 month relationship where every 5 weeks he gets upset over nothing and then withdraws and goes silent.  This time he will not even have the decency to talk to me about it.  He seems to decide when and if and what will change with the relationship.  I am now very stressed out and everything was going great and so confused as to why he states via text wants to only be a friend but has not talked to me or stated really whats on his mind. 

Things go great, he gets upset and goes silent, and cancels things that matter to me (like he wants to hurt me?).  I am sure I am getting blamed for this though.  Other than a physical relationship this really was not a great one but I keep hoping as I see the potential.  Why am I still drawn to him and why am I keeping or trying for contact as he now seems indifferent?  Maybe because I want closure and this seems like he is disrespecting me?   Maybe I really am hoping for a friendship though he was never a great friend.

IDK?

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[survivalmode27]

I have been with my BPD husband for 13 years now. We still go through the same thing. There are patterns if you keep a journal you can almost predict when they are going to be off balance, and yes it is always our fault. It has to be for them to be ok with themselves.

As to why you are drawn to it, there is something that you need there. You just have to figure out what and why. I have figured mine out, but now we have kids and I just do not want to tear our family apart. But he is in therapy so it is manageable.