I've been thinking about something that might have bearing on this. Basically this question:
Why do we fall for the FOG they send our way?In my case, it's some kind of habitual, instinctual reaction when they start to lay on the FOG. Perhaps you too? I mean, we become more self-aware and learn to recognize it, but it's not automatic. We need to think about it first, like you did recently while reading the court documents.
pwPD's are very
emotionally convincing and persuasive. I've been reading a bit about emotional persuasion recently, not just as it relates to pwPD's and their behavior, but how it is employed in advertising and other realms of life. There's a psychology to it and why it works, especially on some people like NON's. And I'd imagine even other pwPD's.
We're pre-disposed to engaging strongly with emotional persuasion techniques for some reason. Hence, when exposed to it, we start to fall for it unless we've become self-aware enough to stop ourselves.
Has anybody else experienced the FOG well after the relationship ended?
To directly answer, yes. All the time. My XW constantly uses our S10 in this manner. I have to be on my toes all the time or I find myself falling for some other tripe she's selling.