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With stress at work, and stress of buying a house and it being my birthday - and having had too much to drink I broke NC. She sent a happy birthday email. I responded with a thanks. A few emails exchanging news followed. A few days ago she asked, via email, if we could meet up. Her kids, herself and my kids and myself. I responded saying I would not be meeting up with her and there were no hard feelings and wishing her well. I guess this triggered her because she responded quite angrily that I was still angry and how sad it all was that I was still angry. Funny thing is I don't feel angry at all. I feel guilty that I broke eight months of NC only to trigger her. I have no doubt she is still with my replacement and things are falling apart. Back to NC again I guess.
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Hey great lesson in self strength shows you what you were dealing with and that your gaining your boundery's back
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Hey Mr C
I know I have been there. Stressed & special days and all. I wished I handled myself as you did a year ago. Ive been n/c and I wil not falter again! Awesome strength
glad to read this today.
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Be proud of yourself. You could have met up with her and didn't. Great job... .back to N/C.
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Thanks everyone for the supportive comments. Yes it is true I can claim some credit for not meeting up. I have never had this before. I have been discarded before but not like this. Discarded for another yet she still persists in trying to triangulate. Plain crazy.
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