I can not handle the projecting, lying, betrayals, overstepping boundaries any more.

[deux soeurs]

There is so much that she has done.  My sister is seven years older and has BPD.  She has no concept of boundaries and is a pathological liar.  It is hard to post on this forum as she goes on many public forums and writes lies about me and my family.  This forum has helped me learn about BPD though so I do understand that her version of events are probably true to her... . It is sad to realize though it is impossible to have a relationship with someone as sick as she is.  One example I will mention is she posted on this forum pretending to be me.  She wrote her version of my relationship with my boyfriend.  I was able to get it removed.  When I confronted her about pretending to be me she said it was no big deal as this forum is anonymous.  I explained it was not her story to tell and she had facts wrong.  I said I was upset so she said she will not talk to me... . I could only resume a relationship with her by saying I wasn't upset at her.  This is one of many things she has done including sending friend requests to my Facebook friends when I am upset with her, etc.  She lies, betrays secrets, steals, was terrible to my mom, dad and other family.  So please tell me, is this how BPD works?  I can not handle the projecting, lying, betrayals, overstepping boundaries any more.  Thank you for listening.

[Narellan]

  welcome aboard pinklipstick I'm really glad you found us. I sense this is going to be difficult for you given your sisters history of being on the site. Do everything you can to remain anonymous and be careful about details. This however is a place for you. YOU are in the right place to receive support and information. I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles with your sister.

I'd like to suggest you post on L5 " coping and healing from a BPD parent, sibling or inlaw"board. Here you will find many members also experiencing similar difficulties with their siblings/ family members.

You sound like you have a good grasp on BPD. Has your sister been diagnosed with BPD? Is she seeking any treatment or therapy?

We have many useful resources and tools which you also might find helpful.

Welcome aboard. I look forward to reading more of your story.  

[deux soeurs]

She has been in therapy since she was 23.  She is now 60... . She said she was diagnosed with BPD and she appears to have many traits.  Recently she wrote on one of her "chat forums" that she was never diagnosed with BPD.  So the answer to your question is IDK.  She makes things up, lies, etc.  I do think she has BPD and so does my brother whom I am close with and knows about my sister and her lies.  I will move over to the other board you have suggested.  I do not think my sister posts here anymore.  The wonderful moderators contacted her and she must have admitted what she did to them.  That is what she told me.  Thank you for responding!

   

[Narellan]

Well good luck with it all. I know you'll find support and understanding and have many of your questions answered. It's the most wonderful supportive community.