She sucked me back in and fell for it... AGAIN

[mallard3868]

Tomorrow will be 1 year that we decided (after 2 yrs of marriage and 5 yrs dating on and off) to separate. Of course we have been on and off many times during the last year. This last one is after the holidays and about a month of NC, I thought I was actually moving on! HA!Yeah right!

... .Short story long, she promised to get therapy but she goes a couple weeks and then she doesn't for 3 or 4 weeks. She said she would get into AA, I went to ONE meeting with her and she hasn't been back. I suppose the biggest issue is that she says she HATES my 14 yr old daughter and talks trash about her any time she really wants to push my buttons. I try all the stuff the books say about getting to the real issues, setting boundaries etc... .but how long to I keep going hoping and praying she is being sincere and gets real help?

What seems to make it more difficult is that we are separated and she can just bail out and go home and block my texts when things get bad. This just seems to go on and on with very little (but still a little) in the way of progress.

How long to I keep this up? I love her dearly and truely want to be with her, but the trash talk about my daughter and the on and off is killing me!

Kind of funny that the BPD "survivors" are my only constant in this whole crazy mess! For that I thank you ALL!

[mitatsu]

Put a value on your self worth... .do you and your daughter deserve better? or do you want to carry on feeling like this and exposing your lil girl to a toxic relationship where she may learn the same behaviours?

be strong sometimes a lil bit of pain stops a life of suffering  

[mallard3868]

very true, I hate that I catch myself questioning my daughter because of the things my BPD accused her of!