Don't know what to do, is he BPD... Am I crazy?

[Johnsok]

I am trying to figure out whether my bf is BPD or if I'm just crazy... I kind of made a list of things because the story is so long I don't know where to start but,

He has extreme anger problems, everything I say sets him off

He has stolen money from our bank $1000 and used $300 of it to take some girl he just met shopping.

He is verbally and physically abusive.

He will agree with me that cheating on your pregnant girlfriend is disgusting say if we are watching a tv show where that happens yet goes and does it himself.

He has broken 3 of my phones, cut our brand bew bed in half after I catch him cheating. Broke our doors in our house. Listen to me have a panic attack outside the house door but refused to let me in. Locked me out on the patio when it was 20 degrees out and no coat.

When we fight he takes my keys and phone so I have nothing.

Goes on dating websites before we even officially break up and says he just does it to make me mad.

EXTREMELY promiscuous sexually... Will masterbate a lot

He is scared I will leave him yet acts out completely to make me want to... .


So that's just some of it... But he has escalated my anxiety and I'm 7 months pregnant and can't take much more.

[Michelle27]

This sounds like an extremely volatile situation for you.  I don't jump to this easily, but I think you need to think about the health of yourself and your unborn child and consider an exit strategy asap.  :-( 

[lbjnltx]

Hi Johnsok,

I'm sorry to hear that you are in such a place.  You mention that your husband has been abusive to you physically.  I would encourage you to make a Safety Plan. Michelle27 states it well as an exit strategy.  Just up and leaving can cause abusive behaviors to escalate and that wouldn't be good for anyone.

Having an immediate safe place to go to in times of crisis and being prepared for that is part of the Safety Plan.

Can you let us know when you have a plan in place?  We are here to help you whether you choose to stay or go.  We are also here to help support you in taking care of yourself.

lbjnltx