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So what do they call that, he use to act exactly like me... . Like he has the same exact thought process as me when it comes to a relationship... . I swear we were the same person and that's what scares me and makes me think there is really something wrong with me until I think of the rages, abuse and lying... . Now it's gone to him doing what he always said was wrong, like apparently he now thinks it's ok for a random person of the opposite sex to walk up and ask for your number and you can start a relationship with them... . Because that is what he did yet a few days later said no that's really not ok... . He back pedals a lot... . I'm so lost
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Have you read anything about mirroring or projection?
A lot of times, they will mirror you and try to be just like you because they lack a self identity.
How much have you read in the lessons? They might have some stuff to help you get a grip on things.
Hugs.
This stuff can be very confusing and difficult to deal with.
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