Hello Br0k3nDr32m5
Welcome to the boards. I'm sorry you're going through all of this with your husband. It's courageous of you to reach out for support. Many members here know exactly what you've been dealing with.
I'm also concerned for your safety. A safety plan is good to have just in case things get out of hand again.
Safety First <--click on this link for info to help you put one together.
Do you have family or friends nearby for support?