Holiday triggers

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

My uBPDexgf has been gone for many months now. Since late November we have had no communication with one another. HOWEVER, most every month except March, I have received a few Private Number hang up phone calls. When I answer whomever is calling hangs up. The last time this happened was in April on Good Friday and on the Tuesday after Easter. Since I had not received any hang ups in March I had concluded that whatever was compelling her to make these calls was over for her. Actually, I suspected that she had given up the hang up calls for Lent. Amazingly the next call I got from her was on Good Friday, so that kind of makes me think I was right about the Lent thing. I haven't had any hangup calls since. Until today.

Mother's Day is on Sunday, of course, and I always mailed her a card telling her how wonderful a mom she was. Actually, I sent her and her sons cards every holiday because I'm old school like that. I even sent them thanksgiving cards because that's just the way I am. It goes without saying that I would send thinking of you cards on occassion as well.

Today, much to my surprise I received an OUT OF AREA Private caller hang up call. And it really is a surprise. I had concluded that she was gone, gone, gone. Whomever she is latched on to is hooked good, in my mind. But for me to be getting a hangup call the week of these holidays makes me think the holidays seems to be a trigger for her. In my mind I am convinced she's gone baby gone. But a hang up call the week of Mother's Day from her, (most assuredly) seems just interesting to me.

I wonder if she is expecting me to contact her for the holiday. I haven't in the past. I wonder if she thinks it could be different this time, that her doing the hang up thing could trigger me to contact her. And frankly I have been thinking of contacting her. Not necessarily for Mother's Day, but just in general. It just strikes me as unusual that she called and hung up.

Before you say. I am 98% sure it's her. The entire 10 years we knew one another I never had a single hang up phone call. Never. And these calls arent to my cell phone, but my home phone. She and I usually talked on my home phone. Since she has been gone, I get them most every month. There is no way it's a telemarketer. No way.

[ShadowIntheNight]

My uBPDexgf has been gone for many months now. Since late November we have had no communication with one another. HOWEVER, most every month except March, I have received a few Private Number hang up phone calls. When I answer whomever is calling hangs up. The last time this happened was in April on Good Friday and on the Tuesday after Easter. Since I had not received any hang ups in March I had concluded that whatever was compelling her to make these calls was over for her. Actually, I suspected that she had given up the hang up calls for Lent. Amazingly the next call I got from her was on Good Friday, so that kind of makes me think I was right about the Lent thing. I haven't had any hangup calls since. Until today.

Mother's Day is on Sunday, of course, and I always mailed her a card telling her how wonderful a mom she was. Actually, I sent her and her sons cards every holiday because I'm old school like that. I even sent them thanksgiving cards because that's just the way I am. It goes without saying that I would send thinking of you cards on occassion as well.

Today, much to my surprise I received an OUT OF AREA Private caller hang up call. And it really is a surprise. I had concluded that she was gone, gone, gone. Whomever she is latched on to is hooked good, in my mind. But for me to be getting a hangup call the week of these holidays makes me think the holidays seems to be a trigger for her. In my mind I am convinced she's gone baby gone. But a hang up call the week of Mother's Day from her, (most assuredly) seems just interesting to me.

I wonder if she is expecting me to contact her for the holiday. I haven't in the past. I wonder if she thinks it could be different this time, that her doing the hang up thing could trigger me to contact her. And frankly I have been thinking of contacting her. Not necessarily for Mother's Day, but just in general. It just strikes me as unusual that she called and hung up.

Before you say. I am 98% sure it's her. The entire 10 years we knew one another I never had a single hang up phone call. Never. And these calls arent to my cell phone, but my home phone. She and I usually talked on my home phone. Since she has been gone, I get them most every month. There is no way it's a telemarketer. No way.

[myself]

There is no way it's a telemarketer. No way.

If she's doing that for her job now, it could be both.

[ShadowIntheNight]

There is no way it's a telemarketer. No way.

If she's doing that for her job now, it could be both.

My ex is a therapist, not a telemarketer.