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jalen
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two years we were togerther, how can you not even say goodbye after so much. after so many I love you being said to eachother. no goodbye I just cant wrap my head around it. just cut and run
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Quote from: jalen on May 24, 2015, 07:07:01 AM
two years we were togerther, how can you not even say goodbye after so much. after so many I love you being said to eachother. no goodbye I just cant wrap my head around it. just cut and run
Welcome to the family, jalen.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. You will find these boards very helpful in discerning your thoughts and concerns. Many of us (including myself) have gone through long relationships which were ultimately ended with no goodbye or closure.
Can you tell us your story and what exactly happened in during the breakup? Talking helps, so talk to us.
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jalen
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yeah I will. I sort of did already I was writing for over an hour and a half my story and then just deleted it, didn't post it. too tyred right now but I will soon
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14 years here. Sucks I know. Just part of the disorder. I am so so sorry *hugs*
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29 years here. These boards help. Surround yourself with friends, new ones if necessary. Reach out. Get therapy. Relearn life from a healthy perspective.
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Sorry to hear that you are going through this... .it was 2 years of me and she broke up with via text and blocked me from contact... .that was 8 months ago... .still have not heard from her at all... .we NEVER argued or really had any disagreements, just 'poof'!
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I'm so sorry Jalen... .
I can understand you, it was the same form me and for many people in here.
Beach_Babe is right, it is just part of the disorder.
I don't know if your ex is BPD diagnosticated, but beleive me, no healty person would do something like that, ever. Trust me, I am a psychologist.
So, please, remember this is not your fault.
And look for help or therapy if you feel you need it. It really helps.
Stay strong!
Big hug!
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Quote from: jalen on May 24, 2015, 07:07:01 AM
two years we were togerther, how can you not even say goodbye after so much. after so many I love you being said to eachother. no goodbye I just cant wrap my head around it. just cut and run
I can tell you I experienced the same thing after five years ... .(she hooked up and ran off to replacement 2-weeks before Christmas. I thought I got hit with a Mack Truck). Its painful. I love your terminology. My nick name for her is:
Cut-and-Run. Just kind of flows doesn't it. She did the same exact thing to the two men before me, too.
I did not know about BPD when I went through it. So at least you have a heads up on the possible personality disorder.
This is a great site. Read all you can and hang your feelings out here. You will get tons of support. It helps a lot!
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Me too... .he's just gone... .two years out the window... .talk about having the rug pulled out from under you huh? Ignoring me for two weeks now... .like he's disappeared. Bad thing is... .I have a bunch of stuff at his house... .the house we were gonna live happily ever after in :'(... .I know what your feeling right now... .its unbearable... .prayers and hugs... .
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