the third suicidal attempt from my BPD daughter

[Marie-Louise]

Hi everyone,

What an intense journey this has become. I posted here when my daughter first attempted suicide.

She was diagnosed with BPD. She has gone through therapy at the hospital. She attended a mental

health sessions on anxiety and behaviors. This helped her tremendously. Since the 8 weeks sessions has finished, I noticed her joy slowly slipping away. She started a part time job which I felt was too soon but at first loved it and now the stress of work is getting to her. She attended her fist BPD group meeting yesterday and hated it. Last night she made the suicide attempt. The psychiatric told me that now the hard work was all up to her. He did not want to admit her in the hospital because she has to make the decision to live every day.

This is difficult for the family members watching all of this. I joined a support group for family members that have mental illness... .I love it and hate it. I love it because I can really share what is going on and I feel supported. I hate it because it is only once a month. I would need this every week.

I go to al-on on the other weeks but it is not the same. There is a course for BPD family member in September but I am on the waiting list. This is the painful part. I have a better relationship with my daughter since I started to change the way I speak to her. She has recognised and apologised for taking her anger out on me. This is a process that will take time. My mother is also very ill, and my dad started dementia. yep I am in the sandwich generation. I am grateful for my faith in God that has given me strength to continue on but I sure wish I had a BPD support group every week.

I love this site and try to get the most out of it as I can but I guess I prefer the face to face contact.

Whoever reads this to the end, please respond so my journey can be less intense.

Thanks

Marie-Louise

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[lbjnltx]

Hello again Marie Louise,

I'm glad to see you back and sorry to hear that your daughter attempted to take her life once more. 

Does the doctor not feel that she is still suicidal or that it was not a serious attempt? Our kids are so impulsive... .one minute it is fine and the next they can't keep it together to ride out their feelings until they change.   

I'm proud of you for doing everything you are able to take care of yourself and get the support you need.  It's hard to do and  please know that we are here 24/7 to lend support.

I'm wondering if your daughter was able to voice what about the group she didn't like, or if she knows what is the root cause of her feelings about the group.

lbj

[Marie-Louise]

Hi lbj,

The doctor did not feel that taking vitamins to overdose was serious enough. Her vitals were all normal when she was released from the hospital. She is back home tonight and doing better. Now her close friend is in the hospital for her attempt tonight. This is so intense. Now my daughter wants to rescue her and she is not out of the woods yet.

My daughter have been hanging out since the hospital. She is mad at herself to have attempted suicide. She had lots of triggers and we spoke about them. She even mentioned that their friendship might be toxic. I told the mother of this girl that my daughter mentioned on our way to the hospital that this girl has no desire to live. The mother finally took her daughter seriously and took her to the hospital tonight. I am hoping this will help their relationship. This girl suffers from depression. Her father committed suicide in November. Life can be complicated.

My daughter and this girl want to move in together... .This seems like a threat for the future. They do not have the money for now. Hopefully they can receive the therapy long enough before they move in together. My daughter realized tonight that her reason to live could not be based on this girl. I think that was a good realization. It seems that my daughter is codependent with this girl but the girl is not codependent towards my daughter.

Thanks for taking the time to respond,

Marie-Louise