Thank you. But in 10 yrs from now, I'll be in my mid 40s and, given the trauma of the deceit by the uBPDxh, single and with no family of my own. Too late to wish for a new man, starting a family, etc.
6 months
The relationship turned my world view upside down. I got so frustrated in all things love between a man and a woman, and really stopped believing in the notion of unconditional love.
I think the damage is permanent. From a kind, selfless, giving and loving unconditionally person, I am turning in a skeptic with atrophied senses for love, trust and care for a man.
I think there is no such a thing as a true unconditional love, except of a mother to her child. And that to God. I discovered the last to be the most safe, true and honest.
After him, these days, I hate all men.
How recent is your BU?
Assuming it's the first BU with a BPD person... .give it time... .
10 years from now you will be completely recovered and on to new things... .or at least that's what happened with me.
The thing is our life is so unpredictable and uncertain, it does help to be a skeptic but not in a negative or a self defeating way. I'm definitely a skeptic.
I can't wait another 10 years... .I'm past 50. I've lost fatherhood, and potential for a family. The BPD ruined everything for me. no more goals, or hopes. I take one day at a time and whatever happens, happens.
