"would you ever consider talking to me again?"

[Depression = 72% of members]

This is the text I received last Friday from my xBPDgf followed by another one an hour later that said "I have a lot I need to say sorry for". This was my first reaction:

"IT'S A TRAP"---Admiral Ackbar from Return of the Jedi.

I'm sure a few of you have received the same or similar texts. My guess is she just got dumped by some loser or she needs money really bad. I think another recycle would be on the horizon were I to reply but I'm not. It's like they think of the very thing you wanted most after the relationship ends and use it on you when they realize you have left for good. My life is much much better now and I feel so much better about myself and the direction my life is going. My ex is a boat anchor that would sink me again.

For reference:

1st break up: April 2013

2nd break up: Oct. 2013

NC(on my part): August 2014

[mks10]

This is the text I received last Friday from my xBPDgf followed by another one an hour later that said "I have a lot I need to say sorry for". This was my first reaction:

"IT'S A TRAP"---Admiral Ackbar from Return of the Jedi.

I'm sure a few of you have received the same or similar texts. My guess is she just got dumped by some loser or she needs money really bad. I think another recycle would be on the horizon were I to reply but I'm not. It's like they think of the very thing you wanted most after the relationship ends and use it on you when they realize you have left for good. My life is much much better now and I feel so much better about myself and the direction my life is going. My ex is a boat anchor that would sink me again.

For reference:

1st break up: April 2013

2nd break up: Oct. 2013

NC(on my part): August 2014

[gsm42]

Cheers! Congrats to you for maintaining NC!   

[Mr Hollande]

You are doing the right thing. Maintain NC and keep well.

[Arcturus81]

Mine texted recently as well. I experienced that flood of emotions but stuck with NC. It was the right decision. You are doing the right thing.

[Infared]

This is a great place to come and talk this contact through from your expwBPD through.  I think your observations are insightful and that you show a lot of resolve in maintaining no contact. Whenever I got contacted it definitely rocked my world and denying or ignoring that was not helpful... .I just had to process it and do what I thought was the right thing for me. I sought out all the resources that I could for support and worked through it.  You sound strong.