Helpful thoughts...

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hey guys,

I'm feeling generally in a much better place this week and I thought I'd share... .

My T was talking about there being 3 areas of life, for feeling satisfaction:

Personal

Social

Work

He said that it is very, very rare when a person has all three areas going well and satisfied, however, when it happens, we often feel at our best.  We usually are having a constant shifting of balance and satisfaction over these areas.

I have pondered this for weeks now.  Trying to focus on strengthening work, and social... .so the personal won't feel so painful.

Originally at b/u... .

All three areas for me were poor.  Well, the work one was not exactly poor, however, I was needing to shift to working more, it was in a transition phase, thus making me feel insecure, less satisfied.

So, I think I'm feeling much better, in a different place, because my work is more stable this month, I can see that living on my own, will not be as impossible I thought it was.  I have begun widening my social experiences, and am feeling hopeful and positive on this front now too.

So I noticed the past couple of days, feeling more content! 

I hope this helps!

[Sunfl0wer]

Hey guys,

I'm feeling generally in a much better place this week and I thought I'd share... .

My T was talking about there being 3 areas of life, for feeling satisfaction:

Personal

Social

Work

He said that it is very, very rare when a person has all three areas going well and satisfied, however, when it happens, we often feel at our best.  We usually are having a constant shifting of balance and satisfaction over these areas.

I have pondered this for weeks now.  Trying to focus on strengthening work, and social... .so the personal won't feel so painful.

Originally at b/u... .

All three areas for me were poor.  Well, the work one was not exactly poor, however, I was needing to shift to working more, it was in a transition phase, thus making me feel insecure, less satisfied.

So, I think I'm feeling much better, in a different place, because my work is more stable this month, I can see that living on my own, will not be as impossible I thought it was.  I have begun widening my social experiences, and am feeling hopeful and positive on this front now too.

So I noticed the past couple of days, feeling more content! 

I hope this helps!

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Thank you,  Sunflower.   These are helpful thoughts indeed.   A good reminder to be aware of these three areas and to ask myself which area needs attention at any given moment.  And then, for me,  to give that area the needed attention in *moderation*.   I tend  to ignore an area,  then dive in full-force  and overdue that area thereby neglecting the others.  Which results in me feeling behind the 8 ball.   I think I will pose this question to myself each morning to see what needs to happen in each area for that day.  If I could then execute that,  I think life will inherently feel less chaotic and more balanced/peaceful/satisfying.

Great post.   Thanks! 

[Circle]

Glad to hear things are improving!