I'm sure its different for everyone but how long until she loses interest?
The best way to get someone to lose interest is to become boring using Controlled Contact. NC is just a tool, a temporary one unless there is a physically abusive situation. NC is for you, not to punish her, it's to help you get an emotional foothold. I'm not pushing Controlled contact, that's up to you if you feel strong enough.
Controlled contact is used so that you can back away from the relationship slowly so that abandonment triggers are lessened, for both of you. You decide (control) when the phone calls are to be made, such as what day (I can tall on Thurs) and you decide how long the call will be. Such as, I have about 10 or 15 minutes to talk and then I have to ____. Stick to the time frame. Be boring. Then you draw out the calls further and further apart.
You said your breakup/makeups usually happen one or two weeks apart so this is right on schedule. It's predictable, it's a pattern for both of you. Since you are refusing her calls, texts or emails her fears are being triggered and she is trying harder like you say.
I think you're right, the attorney "heads up" and ads from her H work are vying for your attention. I think you're also right blocking can ramp up her attempts at contact, deleting them would be for you, not to keep reading them or listening if it's voicemail if you are still struggling.
Hope that helps.
