Feel worse now than before MC today

[formflier]

 

State your position... .keep saying you are willing to compromise... .

Her not moving from her position is NOT compromise.

You both give up something to get to mutually agreeable... .

Hang tough... .she won't like it... .get that out of your mind.  What matters is she stays... .or if she leaves... that she leaves knowing... clearly... that there is no compromise... .

FF

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[Hmcbart]

Long night.

In the end, she firmly believes that she was only stating her opinion on why they need to go back from the 28th of June until the 31st of July. She said that she had not made up her mind yet and that I blew it all out if proportion and got upset over nothing. She says that he telling me how much fun the kids will have there and how boring it would be here and all the other things was just her opinion and that everything she was saying meant she was undecided.

How can I argue the logic. I had to agree that she never said yes or no to my request that they stay until the 5th.

I'm so messed up mentally at the moment. I called in sick and took the day off. I'm no good to anyone at work right now anyway.

To top it off she came down last night and started up again. I asked 3-4 times to not tal about it and we can deal with it tomorrow or even next Thursday in MC. she wouldn't have it. I told her I didn't want to get heated and needed a break. No dice. I got heated and when I left my office, my 8 y/o was standing there. Sad look on his face. I am through its this.

Wife was upstairs crying when I left to go to dr appointment. Says I think she's a horrible person because of how I'm prejudging her reactions if she does stay through the 5th. Right now, I agree with her assessment.

[Sunfl0wer]

FYI... .

I was surprised this year to learn that sleep depriving a person is a form of abuse.  (Just in case you were unaware)

[formflier]

 

Take deep breaths!

Pick a date... .where you will discuss and pick a date for her to leave.  Then... .don't discuss it until then.

Are they driving? 

Dude!  You are just starting out in MC... .you are in the "stop the bleeding stage"... .she realizes something is up... and is tossing stuff at you... .looks like you are still catching it.

Hang tough.  Pick a date... .to pick a date... .so you can take a couple weeks off from this drama.

FF

[Hmcbart]

FYI... .

I was surprised this year to learn that sleep depriving a person is a form of abuse.  (Just in case you were unaware)

I would say something about that but I've been and insomniac since before I met her.

Ff- yes they are driving.

It's been relatively calm. We went to youngest Cub Scout camp family night. Went pretty good. We were having a discussion with another parent about their up coming vacation. He said that they usually go back to visit relatives for his vacation but this year his wife told him he works hard and they can do what ever he wants for his vacation. My wife just stood there nodding and saying yes how important that is.

I wanted to tap her on the shoulder and ask "really? You can say that to him with a straight face but won't even agree to a long weekend over the 4th of July?"

I stayed quiet and actually very calm.

[formflier]

 

I would follow up later with a reminder of that conversation... .

Thank you for agreeing that my hard work and provision for this family needs to be honored.  I'm sure we can find a compromise that works for all of us... .(end it... .walk away)

FF