Humourous?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hello all,

I've been away from the boards for a few weeks, just not really been so hurt or caught up in the drama and been more interested in other things lately. It's been around 3 months no contact and over a year since I left.

This evening I was searching for an item in an email and our old emails came up between myself and my ex during the break up. Apart from feeling sorry for the person desperately trying to explain the obvious (me) and remembering how real and painful this was at the time, it was actually just funny reading the number of different ways I would try and explain the same thing! Some of these emails go 100 replies and the message or content is exactly the same just worded another way.

The ex has absolutely zero insight into her issues and I felt really sorry for the div trying to make her see her ways, I was cyclical but in real real pain, reading it back now it was an act of total futility but I cared so much and wanted to save the marriage so much I wrung myself out over and over trying to make her understand. It was sad. I felt really sorry for whomever wrote those mails. I know it was me, but I also know I am not capable of writing them again. Capable of getting into such a mess over such silly things and a person utterly incapable of meeting my needs. It was a foolish try!

Anyway, just thought I'd check I and say hello and give hugs to anyone going thru the mill with this Bs at the moment, when you're so emotionally invested it's so hard to see the truth of the relationship, believe me, losing this 'love' is a blessing. X

[Trog]

Hello all,

I've been away from the boards for a few weeks, just not really been so hurt or caught up in the drama and been more interested in other things lately. It's been around 3 months no contact and over a year since I left.

This evening I was searching for an item in an email and our old emails came up between myself and my ex during the break up. Apart from feeling sorry for the person desperately trying to explain the obvious (me) and remembering how real and painful this was at the time, it was actually just funny reading the number of different ways I would try and explain the same thing! Some of these emails go 100 replies and the message or content is exactly the same just worded another way.

The ex has absolutely zero insight into her issues and I felt really sorry for the div trying to make her see her ways, I was cyclical but in real real pain, reading it back now it was an act of total futility but I cared so much and wanted to save the marriage so much I wrung myself out over and over trying to make her understand. It was sad. I felt really sorry for whomever wrote those mails. I know it was me, but I also know I am not capable of writing them again. Capable of getting into such a mess over such silly things and a person utterly incapable of meeting my needs. It was a foolish try!

Anyway, just thought I'd check I and say hello and give hugs to anyone going thru the mill with this Bs at the moment, when you're so emotionally invested it's so hard to see the truth of the relationship, believe me, losing this 'love' is a blessing. X

[Yolanda123]

Thanks Trog for your one-year post b/u perspective

Just reading this gives me hope that I'll get better

Glad you're doing well and can see the r/s now in a more objective manner

Hoping we'll all get there... .with time !