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« on: July 15, 2015, 05:55:04 PM »

Dear All,

What are your experiences with and thoughts regarding different forms of therapy? At my workplace, there's a counselling service. I started counselling sessions there for what I felt was an acute family crisis. I had spent Christmas and New Year's with my parents. My mother rejected my present, a laptop—I'd spend months planning what to get her and was beyond disappointment. My idea was that we could communicate by e-mail (my parents still don't have internet, and they only have cell phones that they barely know how to use because my brother did various training sessions with them… needless to say, the cell phones were a gift, too). She coldly told me the laptop was useless: what did we have to say to each other, anyway? She had no desire to e-mail me  :'( After that, things went downhill even further, and the visit turned into a total nightmare.

The counselling sessions were extremely helpful: my counsellor was sympathetic and helped me realize how abusive my parents are. She referred me to a psychologist, and after a while on her wait list, we started one-on-one sessions. Those too were helpful: she usually turned everything I told her into a question; I had to consider and scrutinize my feelings and thoughts and find my own answers. That worked, although I found her somewhat aloof and would have appreciated more feedback at times. She then suggested that I enter group therapy; all of the members in the group had been abused as children. I only attended a few sessions and am not sure if I liked the dynamics. Some members were extremely quiet, others aggressive and belligerent. I had to drop out because of a time conflict with work. That was in 2010.

Since, I have considered getting back into therapy, but I'm not sure what kind. I don't feel that recovering traumatic memories in the process of therapy is beneficial at all. Some memory shards popped up when I went to counselling sessions, such a s a memory of me being little, sitting in the shower, crying. The image was deeply disturbing to me; I felt intense fear and panic. My memories of childhood are patchy at best; years all melt into one, maybe because there were so few occasions that stand out as anything special or fun, such as family celebrations or so. How important is it, in your experience, to recover memories that are either suppressed or that were never stored normally, because they are so traumatic?

Do any of you have experiences with body-mid therapy? My body was severely affected by my upbringing; I used to have extreme trouble sleeping, and I have very achy shoulders, apparently from tension.

I look forward to your responses.

Thanks,

Celia
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« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2015, 03:15:10 AM »

I may not be too helpful but for me i feel slightly the same. I am fairly new to therapy. I've become slightly more depressed from the memories we talk about however it is helping me to learn alot about myself.  Especially why I've done things that I never understood. Some things I have said that I have never been able to tell anyone else and so this particular things I've actuality never delbt with. I'm sure you will find something useful. i really don't have any sort of ptsd though.
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« Reply #2 on: July 16, 2015, 06:35:40 AM »

I’ve done the rounds on Therapy and it has helped.  I shared your reservations about scary memories from the past, but a trained Therapist can bring them out (if needed) in a controled and safe enviroment.

You need to speak with medical professionals  as to what’s appropriate for you. But as I had a diagnosis of PTSD, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) was  recommendation. Here you identify unhealth subcontious thoughts and replace them with healthier ones. So long term the should be less depression (is the theory). Considering the unhealthy thoughts our BPD parents implanted, I found CBT very good as a long term permanant fix.

Ironically I found a self help book on the subject worked equally well, as I couldn’t find a therapist that fully understood BPD. But the full combo of self help/therapist/chocolate did help.

If you’re in the UK, be prepared for the NHS to give you the run around. They don’t have the money for much talking therapy or the balls to tell you that, so they have “waiting lists” that never move. But if you get it through the company, what have you to lose ? You might need to try a couple of different Therapists till you get one you click with. But I've tried 4 over the years and they all had a value. Best of luck.  Smiling (click to insert in post)


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« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2015, 09:18:02 AM »

Thx for the good post,  CeliaBea.  You might check out Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT) which was created to help w PTSD such that trauma need not be re-lived.  It can net pretty awesome results.  

Also,  Happy happy,  what book did you find so helpful?  Could you please share that title/author?  

Thanks!

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« Reply #4 on: July 17, 2015, 03:50:50 AM »

Happy,  what book did you find so helpful?  Could you please share that title/author?  

"Feeling Good" by David Burns. He got a few out on similar topics.

www.bpdresources.net/peer_book_reviews/david_burns.htm

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