Husband's verbal abuse culminated yesterday, he called me a w***e, told me his mother warned him about marrying me and concluded that one of my children is not his, after I told him "at least you have good children, with this w***e". Of course it's unsubstantiated. My question is - is his hatred for me so thong I might be in danger or should I just ignore it? This discussion was done in calm voice, while I was driving. This, after 54 years of marriage. No option of divorce. Our marriage is dead after his physical attack a couple years ago.
Midwest,
After 54 years of marriage... .that has to be a hard thing to hear from your spouse...
What can you do today and the next couple of days to take care of yourself and relax... .so you can take some time to explore the resources on bpdfamily
Was it a one way conversation... or were you participating? Can you lay out how the conversation started... .and how it ended up in what he said... .
Very likely we can give you some pointers about how to redirect or stop difficult conversations.
What did you do after he said this?
Again... .
We are here for you and can help...
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