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July 25, 2015, 11:06:40 PM »
He admitted to cheating on me the other day. But I'm sure he will counter that with "well you said it's over so I'm seeing people" this is the reason not the result of the break up. He can blame the steroids he is taking but I know better. I told him that the most infuriating part is that he is talking her out on MY DIME since he has not worked in 10 yrs. He has been mentioning a trip to Montreal with a male friend was paying for it. Saw Frommers book on desk this am but it's gone now (out with her) AND the first number of redial is Quebec Marriott.
HHe saidthe other day "don't u trust me? " I laughed. Pretty obvious that the trip will be on me. I'm tempted to tell him that I will be gone in a new apartment when he returns
It will totally screw him and may try Suicide. Every
Every time I try to try this happens. Guess I can't be nice.
The money hurts most because I'm driving a20yr old car and he is always saying we can't afford vacation and I am our only income
I know he is using account money on new girl
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Fleur2013,
What's stopping you from cutting off the money? The possible suicide threats? He's in a r/s with another woman.
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I've kept all of my money since I found out about her but we still have a joint account that he pays bills from and could syphon money from.
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Take whatever money is yours and then close the account if you can on your own. Cheating is a huge, painful, betrayal. You owe him nothing. Its time to take care of you. Let him take care f himself.
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