Do you hear their voice in your head?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I have been broken up for about a month now and trying to do no contact, apart from he is still finding ways to via email.

I have noticed recently I have had alot of thoughts with 'you' statements about myself. For example I thought about how I was getting along better with people at work and then the thought 'they are probably talking about you being your back' sprang to mind. Someone did something nice for me the other day and the thought 'you are so selfish and horrible' came to mind. I met my friends partner a while ago and she told me he thought I was nice and I thought 'he fell for your act of only pretending to be nice'

I didnt have thoughts in the 'you' tense before I met my ex. The content of these thoughts are very similar in theme to the things my undiagnosed BPD ex used to say. He often told me I was horrible, selfish, full of guilt and shame, thay everyone thinks im a psycho and im an attention seeking compulsive liar and game player.

So im pretty sure these thoughts i have about myself are related to him. I was just wondering of anyones thoughts about this or whether anyone has experienced similar?

[klacey3]

I have been broken up for about a month now and trying to do no contact, apart from he is still finding ways to via email.

I have noticed recently I have had alot of thoughts with 'you' statements about myself. For example I thought about how I was getting along better with people at work and then the thought 'they are probably talking about you being your back' sprang to mind. Someone did something nice for me the other day and the thought 'you are so selfish and horrible' came to mind. I met my friends partner a while ago and she told me he thought I was nice and I thought 'he fell for your act of only pretending to be nice'

I didnt have thoughts in the 'you' tense before I met my ex. The content of these thoughts are very similar in theme to the things my undiagnosed BPD ex used to say. He often told me I was horrible, selfish, full of guilt and shame, thay everyone thinks im a psycho and im an attention seeking compulsive liar and game player.

So im pretty sure these thoughts i have about myself are related to him. I was just wondering of anyones thoughts about this or whether anyone has experienced similar?

[SummerStorm]

All the time.  My mind has stripped away everything else and keeps alternating between the good things and the bad.  So, I constantly hear her voice saying, "I love you.  You are a poison.  You're the one.  Who could ever love you?  I miss you.  Shut the f___ up, you're so annoying." 

[rotiroti]

I have been broken up for about a month now and trying to do no contact, apart from he is still finding ways to via email.

I have noticed recently I have had alot of thoughts with 'you' statements about myself. For example I thought about how I was getting along better with people at work and then the thought 'they are probably talking about you being your back' sprang to mind. Someone did something nice for me the other day and the thought 'you are so selfish and horrible' came to mind. I met my friends partner a while ago and she told me he thought I was nice and I thought 'he fell for your act of only pretending to be nice'

I didnt have thoughts in the 'you' tense before I met my ex. The content of these thoughts are very similar in theme to the things my undiagnosed BPD ex used to say. He often told me I was horrible, selfish, full of guilt and shame, thay everyone thinks im a psycho and im an attention seeking compulsive liar and game player.

So im pretty sure these thoughts i have about myself are related to him. I was just wondering of anyones thoughts about this or whether anyone has experienced similar?

It sounds like you are saying that in every relationship besides the one you had with your BPDex is healthy and that the one with the BPDex is the unhealthy one. I think that's a powerful insight

[klacey3]

I have been broken up for about a month now and trying to do no contact, apart from he is still finding ways to via email.

I have noticed recently I have had alot of thoughts with 'you' statements about myself. For example I thought about how I was getting along better with people at work and then the thought 'they are probably talking about you being your back' sprang to mind. Someone did something nice for me the other day and the thought 'you are so selfish and horrible' came to mind. I met my friends partner a while ago and she told me he thought I was nice and I thought 'he fell for your act of only pretending to be nice'

I didnt have thoughts in the 'you' tense before I met my ex. The content of these thoughts are very similar in theme to the things my undiagnosed BPD ex used to say. He often told me I was horrible, selfish, full of guilt and shame, thay everyone thinks im a psycho and im an attention seeking compulsive liar and game player.

So im pretty sure these thoughts i have about myself are related to him. I was just wondering of anyones thoughts about this or whether anyone has experienced similar?

It sounds like you are saying that in every relationship besides the one you had with your BPDex is healthy and that the one with the BPDex is the unhealthy one. I think that's a powerful insight

Well my relationships before this one were bad aswell but they were just immature and were not that interested to be with me, they didnt put me down and behave in a push pull way.

[klacey3]

All the time.  My mind has stripped away everything else and keeps alternating between the good things and the bad.  So, I constantly hear her voice saying, "I love you.  You are a poison.  You're the one.  Who could ever love you?  I miss you.  Shut the f___ up, you're so annoying." 

Sorry to hear. Are the voices actually hers or does it sound like your own?

I tend to hear what sounds like my own thoughts but I know it isnt as I think 'you' rather than 'i'.

[rotiroti]

Well my relationships before this one were bad aswell but they were just immature and were not that interested to be with me, they didnt put me down and behave in a push pull way.

Sorry for not clarifying, I had meant relationships with friends and co-workers all seemed very normal and healthy, but that this romantic relationship especially was not

[SummerStorm]

All the time.  My mind has stripped away everything else and keeps alternating between the good things and the bad.  So, I constantly hear her voice saying, "I love you.  You are a poison.  You're the one.  Who could ever love you?  I miss you.  Shut the f___ up, you're so annoying." 

Sorry to hear. Are the voices actually hers or does it sound like your own?

I tend to hear what sounds like my own thoughts but I know it isnt as I think 'you' rather than 'i'.

It depends.  Some of those things she said to me in a text, so I don't hear her voice.  Actually, I hear my voice, which is actually worse.  I basically hear my voice saying, "You are a poison." 

And I hear "I love you" in her voice, which is the worst.