Do they really not know?

Mine knows exactly what she is doing and saying and how it affects me. She has used every unkind word imaginable and expected me to just take it. She has no remorse for any of it, no matter how crazy or hurtful. She sees me as deserving of it and accuses me of doing the same thing to her ( which I clearly do NOT). Projections and gas lighting are her best weapons of manipulation and control. For several months I thought I was going crazy. Her reality is and has always been so much different than mine. Even when I read posts here about splitting, I think for the first two years of our relationship I was mostly white. After we got married I was quickly painted black and stayed shades of grey/black ever since. It is like I have been punished for marrying her.

She has never owned up to any hurt that she has caused me and sees herself as entitled. She has made up the most ridiculous fact patterns in her head, things that never occurred and always claims to know what I am thinking. Everything is drama. I am always accused of not loving her or not loving her enough.

She sees herself as PERFECT and me as a monster. Nice huh?



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