Need advice on how to handle a potential dysregulation...

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Hello everyone Well, this is sort of embarrassing, but my OB/GYN called and I have bacterial vaginosis. It will be cleared up within days after I take some antibiotics, it's not an STD just some common thing women get sometimes.

Well, what I'm afraid of is when I googled it, one of the things it says is that it's more common in women with more than one sexual partner and if they are sexually active, but women who are not sexually active can get it as well.

I'm afraid my dBPDh might look it up, and assume I must be cheating. He hasn't accused me for a long time, but I know he's still very insecure about our lack of a sex life, even though we have had Viagra for a week now. (he's still anxious about trying it, I am planning a getaway this weekend. a change in scenery might help with some of that)

If he does say that, or dysregulate about this... .what's a good way to not JADE and to state the facts of this?

[ColdEthyl]

Hello everyone Well, this is sort of embarrassing, but my OB/GYN called and I have bacterial vaginosis. It will be cleared up within days after I take some antibiotics, it's not an STD just some common thing women get sometimes.

Well, what I'm afraid of is when I googled it, one of the things it says is that it's more common in women with more than one sexual partner and if they are sexually active, but women who are not sexually active can get it as well.

I'm afraid my dBPDh might look it up, and assume I must be cheating. He hasn't accused me for a long time, but I know he's still very insecure about our lack of a sex life, even though we have had Viagra for a week now. (he's still anxious about trying it, I am planning a getaway this weekend. a change in scenery might help with some of that)

If he does say that, or dysregulate about this... .what's a good way to not JADE and to state the facts of this?

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When telling him about it, you might focus on the fact that they aren't really sure what causes it and that it is an imbalance of flora that is naturally found in the vagina. www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/tc/bacterial-vaginosis-cause

Douching can upset the natural flora and lead to bacterial vaginosis. So can smoking and unprotected sex with ONE partner. I would study up on it as much as you can so that you can make it clear to him that it is pretty common. I had it once about 10 years ago. I can't find the link now but I seem to recall that all sorts of things can upset the flora down there.

If he does accuse you of cheating, I would give him as much factual information as you can and leave it at that.

[123Phoebe]

Hi ColdEthyl, female issues suck, blah hate 'em!  :)oes he have to be made aware of the official diagnosis?

Hope the coast is clear once the weekend rolls around  Haha, do you remember bumper stickers back in the 70's "If the van's a rocking, don't come knocking".  Just remembered that one  

[ColdEthyl]

Hi ColdEthyl, female issues suck, blah hate 'em!  :)oes he have to be made aware of the official diagnosis?

Hope the coast is clear once the weekend rolls around  Haha, do you remember bumper stickers back in the 70's "If the van's a rocking, don't come knocking".  Just remembered that one  

Well, I don't like lying so I told him I'd be home a little late because I needed to pick up a script, so since he knew I just went to the OB, I figured I'd better tell. From what I read it's cleared up within 2-3 days of taking the antibiotic. I don't have any symptoms at all and I didn't know I had anything D: I remember having this before back in 1998 when my first baby was stillborn, at the time they said it was common for a female to get this after something like that.

If he does accuse you of cheating, I would give him as much factual information as you can and leave it at that.

Thanks, VoC. That's what I was leaning towards I just wanted a second opinion. Thank you  as always for your help!

[ColdEthyl]

Update:

He didn't mention anything. In fact, he said he knows all about female issues, yeast infections, UTI's, etc etc so he knows these things happen.

So, I worried over nothing. But I feel better being prepared just in case. It's hard to tell what's going to be the trigger sometimes. Thank you for the support