Stop. Breathe. You are in control.

[Chrisbazsky77]

This daily renewal is the most intense I have ever encountered.

I continue to believe this experience is teaching me to navigate my own humanity and of others.

A host of various emotions almost unimaginable. Questions. Paradox. Answers. Beginnings.

I'm in the driver seat now. I am in control. I am stopping to ask for directions at every positive medium I can find. I can clearly see the signs... .

I have accepted that BPD or not, I was venturing into the ditch of toxicity with him. I let him drive me-it was a close call.

I have gained strength and knowledge as my roadmaps.

I am honking my horn to all of you out there passing by and smiling, each of you on your own journeys.

It's looking better, this road, wherever it leads, I'll be stronger when I reach my destination called True Hope, Peace and Happiness.

[Darsha500]

Thanks for this. Posts like this are a great source of encouragement.

[valet]

I like posts like this.

When we start to listen to our inner children, we are lent the gift of perspective and the ability to feel our own emotions.

Let yourself feel everything, but be there to guide that inner voice. Say hi to it. Re-assure it. 'yes, you hurt now, but I'm here to defend you'

Build a relationship with yourself and the rewards will speak volumes.

[Chrisbazsky77]

Thanks for thise, the people in who share daily and replies.

Not everyone has reached this self awareness bit just yet and for me it was like jargon when I first found the forum.I get it now. And its a daily process.

As with most things human-we thrive only on balance. We've experienced the hell of the  negative-time to  allow ourselves the joys of some positivity:-)

[valet]

Sometimes that voice is a little bit too loud. We didn't give it enough attention for a while, and one day it exploded. It was sad about the borderline fantasy exploding; angry and confused about why we weren't listening to it. It made us feel anxious because we were spending so much energy trying explicitly not to listen.

I takes a while for it to calm down. Mine was hurt badly for 7 months before I started to listen and care for it. It still hurts sometimes, but now I let it know that although it is hurt, I'm here to watch its back.

This is a pretty abstract concept, so let's bring it down to earth. When we are aware of our emotions, we can separate ourselves from them. This is what a lot of people, and our p(s)wBPD, are not skilled at. Not yet, at least. Hopefully they get there one day. Self-awareness is not a gift. It is something that we have to learn about and practice. It's not easy; no one said that it would be. But it's worth the effort when you find yourself ready to finally embrace the concepts.

[once removed]

great points valet makes. this ability to be aware of and separate ourselves from our emotions is also known as mindfulness, which definitely does require practice, but its a skill that, once learned, can be applicable for the rest of our lives. heres a great thread on it: TOOLS: Triggering, Mindfulness, and the Wise Mind

thanks for the very positive and encouraging post. see you on the fast lane 

[Chrisbazsky77]

 :)Thanks for the responses darsha500, valet and once... .just more encouragement for me to press on, it won't happen overnight but it's happening.

There's something so profound about living in the now and being present with the emotions that come along with it.

I have been reading that link Once, thank you-it's partly the reason I decided to put into practice.

Any practical mindful excercises that you could suggest would be appreciated.