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[roomofonesown]

I am married to a BPD man (23+ years). He has always been angry and controlling. 8 years ago I learned about verbal abuse and confronted him. Problems still continued. Last April, I reached my breaking point and said therapy or divorce. I have recently learned about BPD and it fits my husband perfectly - High functioning, Invisible. I am slowly making progress as I learn to respond differently to his outbursts and crazy talk.

I joined this group because hearing other's stories helps me to stay sane.

Thanks for listening.

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[babyducks]

hi roomofonesown



welcome.   welcome to the family.   everyone who joins here has the lessons on the right hand side of the page pointed out to them.   there is some excellent stuff over there.   I like Lesson 3 myself. 

You'll find that there is a tremendous amount of support on this site.  Being here has helped me and my relationship more than I can say.  As you mentioned since I learned different ways to respond to outbursts, the level of conflict in my relationship has dropped to almost nothing.

I'm glad you found us.   Did you have any questions about getting started?   

'ducks

[an0ught]

Hi roomofonesown,

it helps knowing what you are dialing with, this stuff can make us feel crazy until we realize that this crazyness we feel is an echo of what is going on in the head of our partner.

You demanded that he is going to therapy. Is he actually going?

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a0