Hi bettsie2769 and thanks for this introduction
You've had a childhood with a BPD mother which can often be quite difficult and take iis toll on you. I have an (undiagnosed) BPD mother myself and have also found myself dealing with certain issues as a result of this.
Having to deal with these kinds of things isn't easy, but being able to identify and acknowledge these issues is already the first step to possibly finding a solution

When you consider your mother, what are the most difficult or troubling BPD behaviors she exhibited?
... .so far I've looked at some of the lessons and descriptions of BPD traits. What I've read so far has really caused some lights to go off for me

Could you share some of these light bulb moments with us? To what new insights have you come?
What are the things that make you feel skittish? Are there any particular aspects of relationships that you feel most uncomfortable with?
Take care and welcome to our online community