Do pwBPD read/educate themselves in Non-borderline literature?

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Obviously this question may or may not be a no-brainer, considering many of them are obviously privy to the help-guides and so on that Nons use, as I once read about an experience about how a Non was told by their pwBPD that “they’ve been reading the non-borderline materials” of which the pwBPD “recognized” (when they implemented the tools/guides/techniques/whatever) and it had me wondering:

I wonder how often a pwBPD reads or investigates into books that teach lessons for Nons on how to handle, communicate, etc., with a pwBPD. If a Non is communicating in the way that’s supposed to help communicate with their pwBPD (like SET, or whatever), how many of you have discovered that your pwBPD “recognized” what you were doing as you put the tools to usage?

The complexity of it all intrigues me to no ends. My pwBPD has told me before that she often wishes “people in her family” (or anyone) “would research more about BPD” and that, after having told her mother that she has BPD (many times, as she stated), that her mother still didn’t remember (“no one ever listens to me,” “I wish people would just be quiet and listen to me”) that my pwBPD had told her mother that she had it, and that her mother once said, “Oh, I thought you had bipolar disorder?” which sent my friend with BPD off-the-rails, because of the “not listening to anything I ever say”-type communication (or lack thereof). I validated to her that people should indeed listen, and that, one would think that after having told them about a complex disorder and how serious it is, that people would remember! Keeping it light-hearted, and to loosen the ends, I said, “Yeah, there’s a reason we have ONE tongue, and TWO ears, right? We’re to listen more than we speak!” (Laughter goes a long ways and is like a medicine to the bones!)

Anyway, just wondering what the experiences have been for you all in regards to this particular topic!

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