I woke up this morning in tears - again. Even though my world changed on Dec. 25, 2014... .my husband moved out on Jan. 16th and I was separated on April 10th, I feel the most hurt when I found out he was in a new relationship May 22. This is someone that was chasing him while she was married over a year ago. Her Husband had her moved to a different store than the one my husband worked at to separate them I was told. My husband flat out ignored her I know, because I saw e-mails she sent him that summer. They stupidly moved my husband to that store in Jan. and next thing I know, they both had pink eye in Feb. That tells me that's when it started up again. Why are they still together? I don't see all the love-bombing as much on FB in which she posts everything. I am unable to not look, as it helps me to know some truth in what is happening. He continues to call me when he is drunk at night saying he wants to come home to his wife.(me) Then he'll deny it I guess because I don't give in. He then says he is "into her"... .I guess to hurt me. He is now having her meet the family, just because he needs her help and I am refusing to do so. I know I am doing the right thing to get out of this. Even his own Mother thinks so! Why am I so heartbroken I ask myself and all I can think is that my dream is dead... .which wasn't even a reality to begin with. My beautiful home was sold and I am in an apartment. I am lonely, because I am a giving person and I miss being with someone. I am doing all I can do to move on, but it hurts so much to think I was so easily replaced so quickly. She is very unattractive, which makes me feel a bit better. He used to put me down for being over weight and she is HUGE! At least I have lost 18 pounds so far being away from him,
. She is allot younger (27) and very redneck which is not his type at all in that he is from a very conservative family. They think she is trash since she did what she did to her husband and the way she goes about posting every thought on FB even her plans to marry him and have kids with him! They are not even divorced and she doesn't even know anything truthful about him! I know I am too focused on them and I know she will find out soon enough his truth. She has posted a few things about what you should not accept in a relationship and he does all of them! He has already cheated on her with me! I am being good as to not tell her anything to break them up, because I want him to realize they are not right for each other. I think because she is willing to use guns and fish, he is a bit attracted to that, little does she know he will turn the gun on her! I made him get rid of them. My friend said it's my ego hurt. I did everything for him and he chose her. I feel like I have low self esteem so I don't see how my ego could be hurt. Maybe. She flatters him all the time and he likes that is what I told him he is so into her for. I feel like I could offer him all kinds of "things" and money and flatter the heck out of him and he would probably come back, but the thought of him coming back, scares the heck out of me! So what is the problem? I think I hate that he is with someone and I am not barely even interested in anyone. I was so infatuated with him! It took me 42 years to marry someone and I married him! All for it to fall apart after 8 years of my time and effort. I am tired of thinking about him all the time and I wish she would figure him out soon.He says they have been seeing each other since we separated- that would be 5 months - she separated in May... .They both lie I am finding out more and more. From what I understand pwBPD do not handle liars very well. They want someone that know they can trust. Everything she wanted out of life her husband gave her! I think she was liking the attention my husband gave her as well! She is so stupid! I feel so stupid, but I was happy being married and I wish he would have just done the work on himself he needed to do. I never gave up hope for him. He said he gave up on himself and that I deserve better. That's what they all say... .
