My adult daughter

[Babs]

My adult daughter has BPD traits but has not been diagnosed as having BPD.  She is very depressed, socially anxious and isolated.  She has very little contact with any family members except me.  She lives in a large city 6 hours from me so I don't see her often.  She has a job and her own apartment, is very overweight, physically inactive, and has only one friend who she sees only occasionally.she has had a series of unsuccessful relationships and is currently getting over a relationship with a married man. 

She calls me a couple of times a week and is very sad, sometimes cries, and this tears me up.  We have discussed her moving closer to me and my husband but she vascillates about whether or not to move back to our small town where jobs are limited. 

I feel so sad, find myself thinking and worrying about her constantly and don't know what to do to help the situation.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[meantcorn34]

Hi Babs, Depression causes the symptoms you mentioned. Is your daughter in therapy? Her primary doctor can screen her for depression too. It sounds like you daughter is in a lot of pain, but there is help out there if she will take it.

Hugs to both of you.

[AVR1962]

If you can I would suggest counseling for your daughter. We worry bout our children and want what is best for them but we also have to maintain our own self health, do take care of yourself. Every person has their own struggle in life and as parents we can support our children thru those struggles but they have to figure out life for themselves. Try not to get caught up in solving your daughter's issues for her.