Splitting/charming

[Lou12]

Hey everyone would appreciate some feedback from you regarding the technique of the BPDs return after a black split.

I've just read on another forum that when a BPD is about to split you black indefinitely their cycles of splitting tend to be more closer together (ie only white for very short periods) and black for longer. This is happening to me at present, he's triggering sooner than usual, splitting me black down to imagined untrustworthiness, the split white is shorter. I need to prepare myself in case this is the end, has anyone else seen this pattern of splitting before their BPD has disappeared for good?

Or what was their cycle when disappearing for good?

[Skip]

When you do a pros and cons list, how does it look over the last six months.

[Lou12]

Hi Skip thanks for the reply...

Last 6 months have been an endless cycle of triggering and splitting me black. The white split literally lasts days and goes back to black. I have been emotional to and not doing SET, which I now plan to put in place should another recycle occur!

I just wondered if the ending of this relationship for good is coming based on these behaviours from other ppls perspectives?