Help what do i do next?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hello,

I have been in a relationship with my now ex partner for over 2 years. I have fallen back into the relationship due to my own fault of giving into the manipulation and threats many times over. I no longer wish to be in a relationship with this lady who has struggled with BPD. It has been an extremely unhealthy relationship after the honeymoon period and I have suffered enormously due to her actions but also have caused her emotional suffering as well. I no longer live with her but have continuously given in to her pleas of lets be friends to lets just have sex. I can not continue this for both our sakes. However, the threats are so bad I cant just say no. I did that a year ago and due to her actions lost my job and contact with many friends. She continues to call and text. Should I ignore or answer?

[antonyb]

Hello,

I have been in a relationship with my now ex partner for over 2 years. I have fallen back into the relationship due to my own fault of giving into the manipulation and threats many times over. I no longer wish to be in a relationship with this lady who has struggled with BPD. It has been an extremely unhealthy relationship after the honeymoon period and I have suffered enormously due to her actions but also have caused her emotional suffering as well. I no longer live with her but have continuously given in to her pleas of lets be friends to lets just have sex. I can not continue this for both our sakes. However, the threats are so bad I cant just say no. I did that a year ago and due to her actions lost my job and contact with many friends. She continues to call and text. Should I ignore or answer?

[js friend]

Hi antonyb,

I think that it is time that you have some your boundaries with this lady  and become more assertive with her.It is better not to respond to threats, If you respond  you can be sure that she will continue to manipulate you. It sounds as though you have lost a lot by being with this lady so there is no real reason to go back.  You could switch off your phone or change your phone number if you are finiding it difficult to ignore these texts and calls, but do not respond or feel that you need to explain why you are now unavailable to her. She wont accept any answer you give her so why bother?

You have found your way out of this unhealthy r/s.

Continue moving forward antonyb and dont let this girl ruin it by replying to her texts or calls.