Nine Months Ago.

[Willingtolearn]

My exBPDgf and i parted 2 years ago.  Since we parted i have lived with my sister and her family until i can sort which direction my life should take. My exBPDgf knows that i am living with my sister and her family.

When my exBPDgf and i parted i told her i would erase all of her communication details, i.e phone numbers,  e mail, etc. which i did so.

My BPDgf was friendly with my sister, in fact they use to attend the gym together 3 times a week.  However shortly after my BPDgf and i parted, my sister also broke contact with her.

However last December my exBPDgf sent my sister a Christmas Card.  She wrote in the card that she missed seeing my sister and would she like to meet up for a coffee.   My exBPDgf put her phone number on the Christmas Card so my sister could call her.

On Christmas Day last year my sister sent my exBPDgf a text message wishing her a Happy Christmas. She replied " Thank you for being so thoughtful "

However, that was the last communication that my sister has had from my exBPDgf.  She has heard nothing from her at all. 

So my question to BPD Family is... .Did my exBPDgf put her telephone number on the Christmas Card for my attention?    Or was it put there for my sisters attention?

[rotiroti]

It's impossible to tell and you know her best.

I would think because she was friendly with your sister that that was the sole reason for reaching out.

Are you looking to recycle or to detach? What would it mean for you if she was really trying to connect with you?