Did she enter therapy in the past years? Do you think she improved during these years, in general?
thank you for the comments. Sorry for this story here on the L3 again. I still feel to owe you the replu, so here it comes:
The answer for the first (quote) is yes, for the second yes, but no idea how much. She still has BPD . Improved doesnt mean cured or is still maybe not enough for me. The main reason or better said occurence I'm even trying, is that she is since 1 year alone (her words, but I tend to believe) which was Never the case.
Yes, I'm extremly careful, but more about me. I'm trying not to walk on the eggshells... .I'm testing, looking how much of this will be for me and being pretty honest. Well 95%, but more would be too much for now I think, I dont want to kill all romantic... .
If it wont work, then it will be so. I've had 2 other gf's in the meantime, so I hope I will be strong enough in case of failure... .
If you came back with her, there must be for sure something you really like about her personality, so if this is what you want, then go for it! Anyway, you know that the probability of being successful are very low in the long term. Keep us updated on the evolution of this thing, we are very interested (even only for statistical purposes!
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Anyway, my personal advice: always keep using logic and rationality, and if you'll notice the usual BPD stuff as the time goes by, you may consider to fall back on a simple friendship... .this may avoid the usual drama, and you won't trigger in her the fear of abandonment (at least, not too much).
Good luck HD!
