Ex Gf now has a new BF I don't really care

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

 

Well I care enough to post this thread to at least say I am not the least bit annoyed or upset by this news... .but can't help but feel a little sorry for the poor dude that has her now.

Also not worried about the probable inevitable of her trying to contact me down the road when things fall apart. If anything looking forward to telling her to F off on that day.   

Good riddance!

Anyways... .been about 8 mos of NC. 

Been a long haul and still trying to rid myself of the "fleas"... .but NC works.

Have a great weekend!

[nowwhatz]

 

Well I care enough to post this thread to at least say I am not the least bit annoyed or upset by this news... .but can't help but feel a little sorry for the poor dude that has her now.

Also not worried about the probable inevitable of her trying to contact me down the road when things fall apart. If anything looking forward to telling her to F off on that day.   

Good riddance!

Anyways... .been about 8 mos of NC. 

Been a long haul and still trying to rid myself of the "fleas"... .but NC works.

Have a great weekend!

[stacma04]

I like your attitude, good riddance indeed *

[mitchell16]

I like your attitude! My ex has recently went public with her new person. I only know becuase we have mutual contact on social media  and I saw it. I wondered how I would be when that day came. I was good with it. I couldnt help but think I feel sorry for him becuase right now he thinks he found heaven but Im sure like me and all the rest of her exs he will find himself in hell with in a short period of time. I think my honeymoon phase lasted about 4 months and then after that it was hell every few weeks until I ended at about 3 years. when I saw her post their picture I figured I get sick at my stomach but I really could care less except for the pity for the new man. He looks like a nice guy. I wish him well.

[nowwhatz]

I like your attitude, good riddance indeed *

Thank you! 

[nowwhatz]

I like your attitude! My ex has recently went public with her new person. I only know becuase we have mutual contact on social media  and I saw it. I wondered how I would be when that day came. I was good with it. I couldnt help but think I feel sorry for him becuase right now he thinks he found heaven but Im sure like me and all the rest of her exs he will find himself in hell with in a short period of time. I think my honeymoon phase lasted about 4 months and then after that it was hell every few weeks until I ended at about 3 years. when I saw her post their picture I figured I get sick at my stomach but I really could care less except for the pity for the new man. He looks like a nice guy. I wish him well.

Same here on all except I did 4 years.  New guy looks like a very nice man. Wish him well too. Yeah poor guy is in for it... .2 or 3 months then hell. Chances are he is a lot smarter than me and will be out from under it soon.

Am pleased with my attitude.

We too have some mutual contacts in social media.

I have been casually dating and slowly and carefully developing a friendship with a woman over the last few months who is absolutely gorgeous.  I rarely do this but I posted some very nice fotos of us out together on social media about 10 days ago.

Kind of funny and probably not a coincidence that the exgf suddenly announces a r/s on social media haha.

If I am ever in another r/s I don't think I would announce it on social media. Never did any good in the past.

Just happy and excited to be feeling zero angst, aggravation, jealousy or anything like that.

yayyyyy!

Oh and I am home alone on a Friday night... .just me and my 2 kittens and feel great!  No... .I am not drinking

[nowwhatz]

I thought I should reply to self here to help keep myself in check. 

Well the exBPDgf's r/s with the new guy lasted only a week... .yayyy for him! Always happy to learn somebody was smart enough to pull the ripcord early and not do what I did.

With the holidays coming up I will need to be careful. My refreshingly honest and fun casual dating partner of the last 6 months just moved to another state but will return for a visit in January.  The chances of the exgf attempting contact in the next few weeks are probably higher... .I intend to stand my ground and remain NC.

A couple of things work in my favor:

Work - I am hopelessly busy and am possibly on the verge of making a major career change.

Hobbies - I have a list of things to do that is unending with variety. I have made a strong effort to relax and really be off work when I am off work.

Fleas - I need go to Pets Mart and probably special order an industrial strength flea collar to help rid me of the infestation of bad and sometimes destructive habits I carry around from the failed insanely dysfunctional r/s.   I sometimes feel like ground zero and have to be careful not to fall into a deeper hole in the wreckage. My vanity/ego got a boost by going out with the drop dead gorgeous woman... .so I at least feel better about myself in a superficial way... .better than nothing

Anyways... .all part of the strange and difficult detachment process.

Thank you everyone.

[stacma04]

I just love the attitude,. Im in a relationship and wondering if he'll ever contact me if he sees me on FB. I so want to tell him to go to hell if he does. Doubt i'll get the chance though he's engaged so I'm sure I'm not even a thought right now. Very happy for you though.

[nowwhatz]

I just love the attitude,. Im in a relationship and wondering if he'll ever contact me if he sees me on FB. I so want to tell him to go to hell if he does. Doubt i'll get the chance though he's engaged so I'm sure I'm not even a thought right now. Very happy for you though.

Thank you! I hope what I have posted can be of help to somebody. That is great that he is engaged. Maybe he will leave you alone.

It is a day to day sometimes minute to minute struggle for me... .but worth it in the long run.

Yeah if/when she calls I hope to tell her to F off. I am done feeling sorry for a person who takes no responsibility for their condition and instead torments the ones that care the most.