Confussed

[Darwin74]

Hi everyone I have just researched this site as I don't get much support and help . I am in a relationship with someone who has not yet been properly diagnosed but who suffers from such extreme moodswings . I have been through domestic abuse before so I know the traits of this however I am confused with my current partner .

We can go through a period of stability only for things to change again without warning my partner is not physically violent but seems to have no recollection of these moods swings only to say she knows she can be nasty sometimes .

My partner smokes cannibis and is not being medicated on anything . I have been told that in some cases of bi polar cannibis can reduce symptoms .

My partner also has a very manipulating mother which does not help my partners mental health

All I know is that I get very confused and upset when my partner can go from being the most loving ,kind affectionate person to the complete opposite .I again know the traits can exhibbit controlling behaviour but I feel myself this is more a personality problem .I would just like to know from others what their experiences are .

[PLEASE - NO RUN MESSAGES]

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[ArleighBurke]

There are soo many posts on this site full of experiences... .

How long have you been in the relationship? What are you ages? How often does she smoke?

[babyducks]

Hi Darwin,

You have joined a good site designed to support and encourage us.   to help us learn to skills and tools to effectively maintain our relationships and protect our own selves.

Like ArleighBurke mentioned there is a lot of information on this site and to help you find your way through some of it I have included a link to a good place to start.

Lessons  Here

People who suffer from BPD have harmfully intense emotions that they have difficulty in regulating.   This tends to lead to a pattern of high conflict relationships in their lives.

If you would like to share, can I ask what you would like to see happen in the relationship?

'ducks