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Re: Validation fail but still half worked

« Reply #30 on: October 22, 2015, 12:23:07 PM »

Quote from: CrazyChuck on October 22, 2015, 11:27:26 AM

After about 10 minutes I gave in.

This is what you have control over.

When it comes to starting the fight... .you need to answer for YOU. I chose to fight because... .

She can fight all she wants. If you chose not to "take the bait... "... .there is no couples fight... .she is fighting with herself.

Eventually the energy will burn out and turn to other places to expend energy.

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