I just wanted to share something positive here. My DH's BPD ex has been wreaking havoc on our lives ever since we got married. She has done so much to turn the kids against DH it is sad. I hope one day the kids look back and see what a great blended family we had until she tried to take them away from their dad, one by one. But it is what it is, and they can't see it now (sadly, my kids see it pretty clearly, but it isn't their mom).
But for the positive... .years ago, when BPD mom started our legal battle, she started telling her lawyers (she kept changing) that I slept around with lawyers all the time--clearly trying to hurt my professional reputation. The truth is she was sleeping with her main lawyer to pay the bills. Anyway, I work with many lawyers in my profession (but I am not a lawyer... .
), and I found out about the rumor when one of them confronted me with it, asking if it were true. I was horrified, but I knew exactly who spread it.
Since then I have tried to hold my head up high in my not-so-big community and not worry about it (even though on the rare occasions I was around lawyers, it was hard not to wonder what they were thinking). BUT... .I heard this week that one of her lawyers was talking about me to another (he doesn't know the other was my friend) and said, "Yes, she was accused of something nefarious, but we all worked it out when I spent time with her at a conference, and I find her to be delightful." I did spend time with him at a conference (he happened to join in the group I was with), and I was nervous because I knew he was one of BPD mom's lawyers, but I guess it all worked out.
All that to say, eventually (it may take time) the truth surfaces to the top.
Any more smear campaign wins out there? I just think some positive vibes may do some good... .we all will get through this!
