Bipolar or Bpd ?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi... .my girlfriend of on and. off for 8 months has lupus which is all she told me me about her... she is 55 a women i had met on line back in October ... reading about lupus I came acrossed how bipolar could also be a envolved... .I have seen bipolar post on her fb page... .so I read about that and how bipolar can be miss diagnosed. as BPD... .ok i seemn the actions she has shown me ... one little misunderstanding... .and look out she won't talk to me for days... the 1st time after 4 months we  Split for  2 months go back together then blamed me for giving her hpv which was misdiagnost... didn't talk for 4 days started hanging out had a wonderful time together but things didn't seem right a asked if sheeing anyoue else... she said no ... so continued to have a great relationship so I thought... she come everyday for coffee spend the night but no sex. this was because she had personal problems went to have it checked told me it was a latex infection caused by the applicator... they don't make applicators from latex incase your allgic... so the lies continued where she was call to see where i was... seen her in somone else's truck when she was supposed to be with her mom went to cookout and not get invided can't go near her house acted paronoid... .would never talk on the phone unless she was alone all text messages.snaped out at me because she was 5 hours late because she had to be with her dad but was not their( friend lives across the street but she don't know that)always lying I was upset but not mad she blue into a rage i never seen before... .very mulipulative ... just couldn't handle the lies anymore... and then blme me for getting upset she got up and left told me i. crossed the line it will never ever be anythingeein between us again... .found out she was seeing someone else and me at the same time which she swore wasn't true. was told by friends that seen her ... I caught her twice ... very hard to overcome this concidering how nice she was in the beginning... she was a totally different person... she blocked me from everything and now is not at her househouse for the past 4 weeks

[ramman0120]

Hi... .my girlfriend of on and. off for 8 months has lupus which is all she told me me about her... she is 55 a women i had met on line back in October ... reading about lupus I came acrossed how bipolar could also be a envolved... .I have seen bipolar post on her fb page... .so I read about that and how bipolar can be miss diagnosed. as BPD... .ok i seemn the actions she has shown me ... one little misunderstanding... .and look out she won't talk to me for days... the 1st time after 4 months we  Split for  2 months go back together then blamed me for giving her hpv which was misdiagnost... didn't talk for 4 days started hanging out had a wonderful time together but things didn't seem right a asked if sheeing anyoue else... she said no ... so continued to have a great relationship so I thought... she come everyday for coffee spend the night but no sex. this was because she had personal problems went to have it checked told me it was a latex infection caused by the applicator... they don't make applicators from latex incase your allgic... so the lies continued where she was call to see where i was... seen her in somone else's truck when she was supposed to be with her mom went to cookout and not get invided can't go near her house acted paronoid... .would never talk on the phone unless she was alone all text messages.snaped out at me because she was 5 hours late because she had to be with her dad but was not their( friend lives across the street but she don't know that)always lying I was upset but not mad she blue into a rage i never seen before... .very mulipulative ... just couldn't handle the lies anymore... and then blme me for getting upset she got up and left told me i. crossed the line it will never ever be anythingeein between us again... .found out she was seeing someone else and me at the same time which she swore wasn't true. was told by friends that seen her ... I caught her twice ... very hard to overcome this concidering how nice she was in the beginning... she was a totally different person... she blocked me from everything and now is not at her househouse for the past 4 weeks

[enlighten me]

Ive heard of BPD being mis diagnosed as bi polar quite a lot. My ex wife told me she was diagnosed as bi polar but there was no follow up. No medication or anything else.

I think what is more important for you is to look at her actions and think if they are acceptable to you. You may never find out if she has BPD or bi polar but what you do know for a fact is how she treated you and how it made you feel.