Myself and my 5+ years GF broke up, she has BPD. It was after an argument, I was very hurt from it and said I needed some time, she didn't want to give it. She messaged today saying that she has no more reason to live of there is no future for us. I'm so worried.
After arguments with my BPDgf, if the talk was to end our relationship she would say things like that she had no reason to live or that she's going to killing herself. We would get back together as this made me feel she truly cared about me and that all the nasty things she said during the argument weren't her actual feelings. This pattern repeated over and over and I realized she wouldn't actually do it, it was just a form of manipulation. I understand your concern because what if she is serious. The last time she threatened her life I said to her if she is actually serious then I will call the police and I pushed her to give me an answer. She
backed off a little by saying she was just thinking of it. She thought I was actually serious about calling so I knew it was just manipulation. So hopefully in your case she's not serious and its just manipulation to get you back.