Fb and new friends

[Scopikaz]

Well my ex gf as of two weeks ago who I suspect has BPD or a form of it, moved back in with a girl ten years younger than her. What I would consider someone who likes to party as opposed to grow up. That said, my ex used to talk about me posting stuff of fb to get attention.  And that's exactly what she's doing now.

Memes to make it look like she's the victim and trying to be strong and move on and learn from past. Or three times now in two weeks mentioning she's all alone watching Christmas movies, or driving on trip back from thanksgiving, or sitting at home alone tonight wondering what to do.

And now these "friends" who I have never seen make commentsea  on her posts or who I've ever heard her mention are saying come to such and such bar, or this bar, etc. and she said tomorrow night she's going with "friends" to the downtown area (which translates to go drinking or dancing).

Her and I would go for a drink on occasion, but usually not to the bars I know she will be frequenting now.

Sad. Like a different person who I don't even know. Trying to get sympathy on fb, new set of friends, and more going out and drinking.

Her children must be so proud.

[SummerStorm]

Mine always has new people liking her posts, but they never stick around long. 

And the memes and things that she posts are just ridiculous.  One was clearly against cheating (she cheated on her ex with me).  A bunch are about wanting to be loved and wanting to find her soulmate. 

[hashtag_loyal]

Mine always has new people liking her posts, but they never stick around long. 

Yes, I noticed that about my ex as well. I even went back through a year's worth of her FB feed to analyze this. The group of people interacting with her a year ago are COMPLETELY different than currently.* Her IG posts are the same way. Sad.

*This is especially hard to explain, considering Facebook's algorithm tracks friend interaction and intentionally shows your posts only to those friends that have interacted the most previously. For this phenomenon to be explained, she would've needed to have done a lot of adding and subtracting of FB friends throughout the year, totally unbeknownst to me.

[SummerStorm]

Mine always has new people liking her posts, but they never stick around long. 

Yes, I noticed that about my ex as well. I even went back through a year's worth of her FB feed to analyze this. The group of people interacting with her a year ago are COMPLETELY different than currently.* Her IG posts are the same way. Sad.

*This is especially hard to explain, considering Facebook's algorithm tracks friend interaction and intentionally shows your posts only to those friends that have interacted the most previously. For this phenomenon to be explained, she would've needed to have done a lot of adding and subtracting of FB friends throughout the year, totally unbeknownst to me.

There are a few names that are the same, but I've discovered that many of these are high school friends, and she never sees them.  Her Facebook is private, but I was friends with her for six days recently and went back and looked through her timeline.  A lot of people seem to disappear after a while.  Some reappear after several months.  She's friends with at least three exes, and I am pretty sure one of them is one who supposedly abused her.   

One thing I've noticed is that she NEVER refers to anyone by name.  It's always, "The guy I was seeing at the time" or "My best friend from college" or "My one friend."  I think it's because she pushes them away and then pulls them back in and doesn't want anyone to realize that she keeps doing it.  I think this is also why she rarely says anything negative about anyone on Facebook. 

[alwaysloving]

my exwBPD keeps her friends list hidden but little does she know you can always spot the new guy because he starts liking every post she says about love or whatever or she will post something about relationships and he will be the first one to say or like it... makes it pointless to keep it hidden... I wonder if her friends know that too? One day she put she was engaged to me and she told me it caused a lot of her guy friends to get really really upset...

Right now I saw the new guy and the date they had Friday night... Not too happy and sure it made my blood boil since he had his hand on her breast when taking a picture next to her, but I think that was more so for his buddies...

Funny thing and not too long ago she told me all this stuff about how a relationship is too much work because she has to always make time for him or she can't do anything because she has to always plan and feels like she is missing out on her freedom...

I know I have to be the only guy that really told her about BPD... it's so frustrating it has you thinking why them? I wish I could just close my eyes and this is just a dream but it's so sad really... In the car the other day she was feeling "in the mood" and wanted me to feel her to see how warm she was... then later wanted sex without any strings attached but then later was unable to do so... She's been saying she wanted to have sex for months! But it's always shes on her period or this time she was taking meds for a UTI and she was sensitive and coming off her period...

She seemed to want to tell me she had a new boyfriend but she was like you know how I get and she showed a range of emotioncon from excited to sad to embarrassed.