It sounds like it was just the right amount of contact. Baby steps. No triggering each other.
How are you on the Staying Tools, like validation? This sounds like good practice with the hope of something more.
I'm pretty up on the tools, my problem in the past has always been remembering to use them when i myself am emotionally triggered
To be honest i'm in no rush, the last two weeks have been a good r&r for me, i have been to the gym 6 nights a week and eating/sleeping well, i have had some comments the last couple of days that i'm "looking good"
The energy drain that i was experiencing has gone and i get through the whole day with energy, (the last few weeks we were arguing i was constantly exhausted) i also had my first counselling session last week and have another on friday.
I do hope we can reconcile properly, but i'll leave it to her to make any advances, we seem in a sort of "stand offish" position at the moment, when we talk, there is much unsaid... but I don't feel the need to go there at this stage.