I just don't think I can do it anymore...

[Concerns]

It's Christmas Eve.

My four year old is PSYCHED for Christmas!

Last night my wife says she's going out with her girlfriend.

Spends four hours with some guy at his house.

I'm really just completely stressed out.

My son tried playing with me last night and I was just completely sick to my stomach.

We had to goto bed early cuz ":)addy wasn't feeling good"

I try not to be affected by my wife's actions but I'm just so sick of it. Literally.

It was the night before Christmas Eve... .

I feel like (metaphorically)-"burning the house down"

I want to tell her to not come home tonight and she can go to her boyfriends/lover/who cares if she needs some place to stay.

I feel like telling her she can come over for Christmas morning and then she has to leave.

I feel like telling her to go f*** herself for her destruction.

This I can't and will not do.

I can't ruin it for my baby.

So it goes straight to my stomach and my heart.

I'm gonna have to bury it.

How do I smile?

How do I do the day?

I just feel so disgusted inside and its bleeding into my behavior.

How do I fake it?

How can I do this?

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[Ceruleanblue]

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It sounds like a scary, lonely, hard place to be in. You obviously can't change anything with your wife before Christmas, but can you focus on having a good Christmas with your four year old? Can you just give yourself one day, and deal with your wife as little as possible, or at least keep it light?

[Seeks]

Merry Christmas Concerns,

You have a blessing before you this morning in the form of your child. Watch closely, see the magic of the world through his eyes. Make a good memory, open your heart. Let yourself laugh. Be a good dad to your son.

Put the world on hold for a day, the rest can wait.

[Notwendy]

Some of my childood memories are "milestone" memories where my parents didn't hold it together. I don't know if it was coincidence, or that these events brought out these behaviors. Of the ones I have- where mom and dad got into some big arguments- are things like my graduation where mom upset dad and he stomped out of the school celebration in front of my teachers and friends. All my friends went off to have a celebration with their families. I sat alone while mom and dad went off to argue.

Not that this was unusual behavior for them, but that the milestone made it memorable. Also what made it memorable was the contrast. The other kids/families were celebrating a wonderful occasion. It made it even more obvious than if this had happened on a regular day.

Try, try as much as you can to keep this out of Christmas, and make a happy memory instead of an unpleasant one.

[Beacher]

So sorry. I would make today all about your son. It's such a magical time for him, but so hard when you are trying to just get through the day. I will be praying for you today.XO