Does NC "detach" them?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Mine was more of needs must. She had spent all the money so it was either a tent or my parents and at the time I didn't want to deal with my family. Its funny though it was quite therapeutic being in a tent for a month.

That does sound therapeutic. When my last ex and I broke up I was in shambles for months. I ended up taking a week long road trip. Whipping through the mountains of Chattanooga will set anybody straight. Not long after that I met my exBPD... .

Where would you pitch the tent?

[burritoman]

Mine was more of needs must. She had spent all the money so it was either a tent or my parents and at the time I didn't want to deal with my family. Its funny though it was quite therapeutic being in a tent for a month.

That does sound therapeutic. When my last ex and I broke up I was in shambles for months. I ended up taking a week long road trip. Whipping through the mountains of Chattanooga will set anybody straight. Not long after that I met my exBPD... .

Where would you pitch the tent?

[enlighten me]

I just stayed at a local campsite. I worked abroad so when my time off was over I packed my tent in the car and went back to work for six weeks. While at work I booked a two week trip to Turkey and learnt to dive. That was really therapeutic. It was something totally selfish and peaceful. The great thing about diving is you cant talk about stuff and you get totally lost in the surroundings.

[burritoman]

To me that isn't selfish. Selfish has a negative connotation. I'd say it's doing what you have to do to heal.

Or is it a way to leave the door open?

It could also be that she doesn't want to get her stuff as she doesn't want to interact and is wanting a clean break.

With things like this only time will tell.

I'd say it's about a 50/50 chance both ways. As far as a clean break is concerned, she hasn't erased her "paper trail" of me on Facebook, and she even has a photo of us together still on her main page. It's been 2 months. That's not a clean break I guess. Unfortunately, this action sways my thinking to the "open door" theory.

And yes... .only time will tell.